You are evidence of his avoiding dealing with unpleasant situations head on. Having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship. He has a legitimate married relationship that helps his public persona and he has an illegitimate one with you to make up for what heâs missing in his marriage. Even though he's the one that made it difficult to say "No." And even though he tells you how wonderful you are. Many men (and women) have difficulty accepting full responsibility for their deceitful actions.
This means that he's likely to resort to some devious behavior with you if the two of you encounter relationship problems. Walking together freely and radiantly through the world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to be with you. As appreciative as he sounds, many women who are involved with married men come to resent his having the best of both worlds, when she has the least. Can you love someone who is so disrespectful of his wife? At some level, he's going to have trouble respecting you for settling for such a flawed relationship. Despite his reassuring you how much you mean to him, his not ending his relationship with his wife in an above-board and respectful way -- and not beginning a legitimate relationship with you -- are actions that speak louder than words. Human nature finds it easier to blame than to accept shame. Ever notice how quickly the years go as you get older?
a.k.a He'll NEVER stay that into you There are no positive reasons for dating a married man.
Even the good reasons don't stand the test of time and turn out to be bad ideas in good ideas' clothing.
We found each other and have been in love for many many years. Your post is full of assumptions about what constitutes a "legitimate" relationship," that all women must be looking for future commitments from every man they date, that the married man must be lying to his wife, etc.
And......we're far from being the only ones in this situation. You might want to take a trans-cultural look at your own assumptions before laying them out as if they were "the rule" and anything that doesn't fit them is "an exception." this: 1. My dad cheated on my mom (and my brother and I - I look at the whole thing as a betrayl) several times through their marriage. If you meet someone you love more than your spouse, just get divorced, break up, and be with the one you love. Integrity will hurt, but it hurts less in the long run.
I also read hundred articles about mistress and other woman. It was right before Christmas & I was feeling that it would be nice to have lunch paid for by a rep.
He got a ticket on the way to lunch (fyi) he told me that he was going through a divorce... He asked for a more legitimate email at that lunch & asked me out for another lunch a week later. He came on strong after that taking me to nice restaurants for lunches & dinners.
I have a very good reason for dating a married man...we're in love. That the wife has not to face questions of her neighbors?free products for my school, trips, spending money, traveling... I was married for 20 years & as a single mother, now divorced my lifestyle was drastically altered (as my ex husband took all of our money & left the state & gave up custody of our children to be with his former fiance.My childrend & I have suffered a great deal of pain & anguish by his actions.He tried to sell me products for our school & asked for my email.I gave him an email address that I rarley check since I am used to people trying to sell schools on their products.He makes sexual enuendos and flirts with them in front of his wife. The cakeman is also liable to answer back and give explanation of why he does this.